Growing Up Handmade – Day 4
I know you’re all here for the inspiration, the patterns and the fabrics but I’m hoping I can pass along another bit of wisdom when it comes to kids and their preferences, traching our kids confidence and being able to listen to what they want (and not just hear what we want to hear them say).
For a long time my daughter was so proud of anything and everything I made for her. She would stand tall and be thrilled to tell anyone that complimented her “thanks! My mom made it!” All it took was ONE comment from someone making fun of an outfit she had on that was “homemade” and that was it, suddenly all the beautiful things hanging in the closet weren’t cool enough for her to wear to school anymore.
Up until that point, I felt like i’d been doing a great job at instilling independent thinking and confidence, but when it took such a little thing to crush those feelings I felt like I must have failed somewhere. Since then, we’ve talked a lot about being and loving who we are and I’ve stressed the importance of being your own person, and loving what SHE wants to love, not just what everyone else at school loves. I admit, it’s getting better, but it also means I have had to be more open to truly letting her wear (and making) what she wants, not what I want her to want. I’ve really had to listen, and while that can be a struggle, its really helping her to gain the voice that I want her to have.
Somedays I get cute outfits…. this totally her style. (EYMM Skater skirt)
And some days I get…. well, not as cute but its her, and its what she loves. (And not always Handmade, which is ok too)
Sorry to get all sappy on you today, I just really wanted to share that while we can try our best to make things they will love, we sometimes have to teach them its ok to love what they want, even when other kids may have a different opinion. So enough of my blabbering…. How about today’s stops on our blog?? Is a big day today! On our lineup today we have-
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